I’ve only seen H on the one “date” she had with her ex when he came over. It was quite a thrill to see them play and flirt and kiss, and then to hear them when the door finally closed. But other than listening to them that night, I haven’t had any interaction with her when she’s with someone else.
It’s actually been a point of quiet contention for us. On the one hand, we both like the idea of me vividly seeing her with her lover in bed. There may be nothing else like that in the world.
But on the other hand there’s something teasing and exciting about being denied the ability to watch. The anxiety and mystery mix into something arousing, because my imagination runs wild. There are so many possibilities, desires, risks, and outcomes. It’s like the games we play. Part of the fun is in the not knowing.
And in a weird way it makes me feel closer to H. It makes the moment she comes home all the more surprising and meaningful, and actually more loving as well.
There’s nothing like the feeling you get when the woman you love slides into bed with you late at night after spending an entire evening imagining and edging. There’s nothing like having her slide your fingers into her to feel the evidence of what she’s done and telling you, finally, to come.
- M
There’s also the fact that (for me at least) nothing compares to being alone with a lover. Sometimes I’m afraid I might get too anxious if I have to perform for M but the rest of the time I just prefer to be with someone else without distraction. If I knew M was right there ready to come at any moment it would split my focus. And that doesn’t help me at all.
To put it simply: I come better when M is somewhere else.
- H
H’s ex is a bit bigger in terms of both length and thickness. M actually isn’t all that small, just on the smaller side of average while H’s ex falls on the bigger side of average.
We emphasize it in teasing a bit but to be honest size isn’t the biggest point of teasing or turn on for either of us. It’s more of a simple fact but the physical pleasure H derives from it doesn’t compare at all to the psychological one.
In terms of making it more emotional we do fall back on the whole “caveman” thing most of the time. The idea that my ex can reach deeper or be more physical imposing than M (in terms of both his body and that certain part of his body) is something we like to use during our play sometimes. But again the biggest part for us is the psychological one. It’s the fact that my ex is taking me from him–even if/especially because H’s body is willing it to happen (and in terms of intimate or bare sex willing some other things to be risked as well).
Thanks for the ask. We hope that helps.
- H & M