After much deliberation and introspection and consultation from friends and colleagues, we decided to end our relationship with Mr.
We won’t get into the exact details but suffice to say it was a mutual decision between both me and M.
But we did seek a lot of input from our Flower Power-Couple friends (one or both of whom may or may not be professional counselors) as well as a lot of media out there (and by that we mean movies, books, academic articles, etc) and spent a lot of our time together being introspective over the past couple of months.
Part of that was also due to work. We were busy and getting along with our lives so a more and more involved relationship with Mr was just becoming less and less possible (he was getting quite busy as well). But part of it was also M and I just spending more time as a couple and feeling ourselves change in terms of fantasies and interests.
So although we did enjoy indulging in my sub side we also noticed it became less about cuckolding. For the more psychologically-inclined you could dig into my past and interpret it in terms of learned helplessness or a variant of self-harm or self-punishment, and in the end a lot of our relationship with Mr became something unhealthy for both of us. And that’s not something either of us could see ourselves living with.And in light of all that we started talking with our close “flower couple” friends. They shared a few of their own experiences and among other things I realized that I love the power of being with M. Not just sexual exploration and empowerment but also the strength and experience to be able to comfort, to fulfill, and to love.
And that power is something I do thrive on. M might even be more of a sub himself (not in the BDSM sense but in a relationship sense… if that makes sense?). He’s loving and one of the most wonderful people in the world but he also loves and thrives on being with a strong partner. Our best friend couple and even the few others we talked about it with agreed.
So that’s what we agreed upon with going forward: we want to remain a strong couple. We want to continue experimenting. And we want both want to continue cuckolding.
The main change we want to make is to have more of a focus on myself taking the initiative with other men. And for them to be more strictly sexual experiences.
We want more of that sense of excitement and anything-can-happen-ness (that’s totally not a word) we had earlier on in our cuckolding experiences. And while things like that may be a little more diffcult as time goes on (with things like work especially) we do have a few plans and avenues we’re thinking of.
But until then… we’ll just have to see!
- H and M
I’ll answer this because we’ve got a ton of asks about her recently.
First of all: no. Neither M nor I know. And I’m pretty sure most other people on tumblr wouldn’t know either.
But if she and her boyfriend are anything like us (or 90% of the other cuck couples on here) she’s busy. She might be busy with work. She might be busy fucking some stranger’s brains out. She might be busy seeing a couples counselor because it’s affecting their relationship. She might be trying other fantasies with him.
In our time here on tumblr/starting with the whole cuckolding reality altogether we’ve found that it often ebbs and flows. Sometimes I want to fuck one of M’s friends or his boss etc. and I’ll obsess over that for a month (roleplaying and fantasizing and masturbating alongside him or alone) and swear I’ll be able to think about nothing else for as long as I live.
Then one week it might change. Maybe I’ll be really into wanting to turn M into a dom and just feeling be a man for me. Maybe I’ll look up things like taken-in-hand relationships and various other soft kinds of BDSM stuff. We’ll have talks about it and fantasies and try things out.
Then one week it could change again and I’ll be really into Adventure Time or The Walking Dead (don’t spoil this latest season by the way- M and I have yet to watch and we’ll kick anyone in the face who tells us what happens) or anything. It could be an anime or a certain kind of food or stuffed animals.
Then maybe we come back to me wanting someone to take me from him and want a much more involved sort of cuckolding situation. We might fantasize about sex during risky times or with someone who bullied M or Doms and new relationship energy and stirring our emotion cocktails etc. etc.
And maybe sometimes we’ll just want to be a normal couple and go out for a nice walk and dinner somewhere. Then come back home to snuggle up.
So in the end it changes fairly regularly. It’s always a relationship that has to be considered in terms of a couple and not just cuckolding. Things like work and family and moods and hobbies and interests are the reality. Cuckolding is just one aspect of that (powerful though it may be at times).
tl;dr I think our last major post was about a month ago? We’re busy with work and cartoons and making pierogi’s and maintaining our quirky-in-an-awesome-way couple-status so that’s probably why. Maybe other people on tumblr don’t post for weeks or months on end because of the same reasons.
And as with a lot of other couples we do like to limit the personal details we post here too… so it’s not the same as an everyday blog for us. It usually takes a few planets aligning for us to even read over a tumblr post together.
Anyways take care everybody! *wave from H and M*
:)
- H