So, it’s the end of the weekend.
As it turns out, even on a holiday long weekend, plans and arrangements can be flipped on their head with a phone call.
Without going into too much detail, part of why we thought it would be a good idea to start up again was some free time one of us would be having from now on, but some news (not bad news) has changed that and things are going to remain the same for the next little while.
But, thanks to the asks and messages we got from people over the past few days, we do feel good about this whole tumblr world again.
So we won’t be answering personal asks or sharing intimate details in long posts, but there is some progress on the extrarelational front again. Don’t expect us to say too much, but if anything does happen (and if we have the mood / time to write about it) we might make a post.
In the meantime, we are working on some new captions (and a new look for them), but whether or not we post them on here is something we’re still working on. Although, don’t expect anything right away.
But we do hope you all had a great weekend! And if you do have any questions or snippets of your lives or minds you’d like to share, we’ll be checking in intermittently this week to see how things are going.
So, until we do post again, we wish you all the best!
- H & M
We’re not dead!
(OoooOOOOooo! Scary ghost noises!) (We’re just kidding.)
Whew. It’s been a while.
A lot has happened since we last posted on here, and we just want you all to know that we have checked up intermittently to read your asks and things, but we didn’t reply for a reason.
First of all, we’ve been super busy with work and life. Secondly, we did other things. And by “other things” we do mean we engaged in cuckolding, and also stopped cuckolding. (If you’re a couple out there or if you’ve ever had the feelings, you’ll know how it is - sometimes you want to dive in deep and sometimes you just want to quit altogether…)
It’s getting a little late here, but we also did want to make a bit of an announcement. A lot of people have wanted to know if / when we would come back to post on here, and the answer is both a yes and no.
We’ve had some recent developments and have started thinking about creating captions again. But (and this is a big but, so pay attention), we might not be doing any further work on here.
And we do use the word “work” for a reason. During the last few months of our blogging, we didn’t always feel the same amount of pleasure or drive for tumblr. At times, it felt like an obligation to respond to people. And it didn’t help that a large number of those asks were hurtful, stupid, malicious, or things we’d answered a million times before (or have openly stated that we would never share). And when it came to posting, we’d lost both the passion and inspiration to create any original captions. We were mostly reblogging other people’s stuff (or watching people re-post / steal our own posts), and that’s not what we intended when we started this tumblr.
In short, it felt like work because we were doing all of this for other people, not for ourselves.
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But, recently we have felt that passion and inspiration to post again. As we said, there have been some recent developments, and… we’re a bit excited to be getting back into things.
However, those reasons that made us stop posting in the first place are still there (or at least, the risk of them…)
So we’ve been thinking things through, and the option we’ve been leaning closest to has been creating a new, private tumblr (we thought about watermarking posts, but that wouldn’t solve the other problems).
So a private blog would help with a lot of things:
1) We would no longer receive a ton of unsolicited / inane asks.
2) We would know who’s viewing our content.
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We would feel a bit safer about non-reposting.
4) We could focus more on ourselves / original content.
5) We could be even more intimate / candid with posts.
It’s something we’re seriously thinking about, if we do come back. But if you’ve been following us for a while (or are just a sensible person), you don’t need to worry too much - we would be giving the password to most people who ask nicely.
If we do create a password-protected blog, it’ll probably be sometime this weekend, but we do have to note that even if we do create one, we still might not update it as regularly as we did when we started out on tumblr. Work and life has only gotten busier for us since then.
And in advance, we apologize if any of this doesn’t make sense. It’s late, and we’ve spent a lot of time and energy today, but we did want to let you guys know what’s been up with us, and what we’re thinking about.
We hope you’re all doing well, and we wish you all the best!
- H & M
After much deliberation and introspection and consultation from friends and colleagues, we decided to end our relationship with Mr.
We won’t get into the exact details but suffice to say it was a mutual decision between both me and M.
But we did seek a lot of input from our Flower Power-Couple friends (one or both of whom may or may not be professional counselors) as well as a lot of media out there (and by that we mean movies, books, academic articles, etc) and spent a lot of our time together being introspective over the past couple of months.
Part of that was also due to work. We were busy and getting along with our lives so a more and more involved relationship with Mr was just becoming less and less possible (he was getting quite busy as well). But part of it was also M and I just spending more time as a couple and feeling ourselves change in terms of fantasies and interests.
So although we did enjoy indulging in my sub side we also noticed it became less about cuckolding. For the more psychologically-inclined you could dig into my past and interpret it in terms of learned helplessness or a variant of self-harm or self-punishment, and in the end a lot of our relationship with Mr became something unhealthy for both of us. And that’s not something either of us could see ourselves living with.And in light of all that we started talking with our close “flower couple” friends. They shared a few of their own experiences and among other things I realized that I love the power of being with M. Not just sexual exploration and empowerment but also the strength and experience to be able to comfort, to fulfill, and to love.
And that power is something I do thrive on. M might even be more of a sub himself (not in the BDSM sense but in a relationship sense… if that makes sense?). He’s loving and one of the most wonderful people in the world but he also loves and thrives on being with a strong partner. Our best friend couple and even the few others we talked about it with agreed.
So that’s what we agreed upon with going forward: we want to remain a strong couple. We want to continue experimenting. And we want both want to continue cuckolding.
The main change we want to make is to have more of a focus on myself taking the initiative with other men. And for them to be more strictly sexual experiences.
We want more of that sense of excitement and anything-can-happen-ness (that’s totally not a word) we had earlier on in our cuckolding experiences. And while things like that may be a little more diffcult as time goes on (with things like work especially) we do have a few plans and avenues we’re thinking of.
But until then… we’ll just have to see!
- H and M
I’ll answer this because we’ve got a ton of asks about her recently.
First of all: no. Neither M nor I know. And I’m pretty sure most other people on tumblr wouldn’t know either.
But if she and her boyfriend are anything like us (or 90% of the other cuck couples on here) she’s busy. She might be busy with work. She might be busy fucking some stranger’s brains out. She might be busy seeing a couples counselor because it’s affecting their relationship. She might be trying other fantasies with him.
In our time here on tumblr/starting with the whole cuckolding reality altogether we’ve found that it often ebbs and flows. Sometimes I want to fuck one of M’s friends or his boss etc. and I’ll obsess over that for a month (roleplaying and fantasizing and masturbating alongside him or alone) and swear I’ll be able to think about nothing else for as long as I live.
Then one week it might change. Maybe I’ll be really into wanting to turn M into a dom and just feeling be a man for me. Maybe I’ll look up things like taken-in-hand relationships and various other soft kinds of BDSM stuff. We’ll have talks about it and fantasies and try things out.
Then one week it could change again and I’ll be really into Adventure Time or The Walking Dead (don’t spoil this latest season by the way- M and I have yet to watch and we’ll kick anyone in the face who tells us what happens) or anything. It could be an anime or a certain kind of food or stuffed animals.
Then maybe we come back to me wanting someone to take me from him and want a much more involved sort of cuckolding situation. We might fantasize about sex during risky times or with someone who bullied M or Doms and new relationship energy and stirring our emotion cocktails etc. etc.
And maybe sometimes we’ll just want to be a normal couple and go out for a nice walk and dinner somewhere. Then come back home to snuggle up.
So in the end it changes fairly regularly. It’s always a relationship that has to be considered in terms of a couple and not just cuckolding. Things like work and family and moods and hobbies and interests are the reality. Cuckolding is just one aspect of that (powerful though it may be at times).
tl;dr I think our last major post was about a month ago? We’re busy with work and cartoons and making pierogi’s and maintaining our quirky-in-an-awesome-way couple-status so that’s probably why. Maybe other people on tumblr don’t post for weeks or months on end because of the same reasons.
And as with a lot of other couples we do like to limit the personal details we post here too… so it’s not the same as an everyday blog for us. It usually takes a few planets aligning for us to even read over a tumblr post together.
Anyways take care everybody! *wave from H and M*
:)
- H
In response to another few asks we got:
First of all thank you for the compliment! We do love to incorporate as much intimacy and emotion as we can because - unlike perhaps some other blogs or just blogs run by individuals - our fantasies and play affect our relationship and things change and grow as a result of that. We promised to ourselves to try and share everything on our blog as long as we can find the words for it and although we keep a few things here and there we’ve shared a lot more than we thought we ever would a year ago.
That’s a big thing for us. It’s all real.
To answer your question as to how long we’ve been dating… M and I have been together since about the beginning of January 2011. Literally I mean New Year’s day. A lot of it was just me realizing that certain things I was doing were things I wanted to stop doing and I just wanted to be a better person. M was that for me. He was kind and intelligent and just plain lovely. And whenever we talked I always laughed and smiled and couldn’t stop just putting my arm around his arm or his neck and just nuzzling him or ruffling his hair. I wanted to be with him forever. That’s all I wanted.
So we’ve been dating since maybe April that year. Almost four years now. But I’ve known I’ve loved him since just about that New Years night way back then. And I guess I’ve realized I can’t live without him since around that time too.
But I’ve also known I couldn’t just be with him since maybe summer that year as well. It took a lot for me to not sleep with other men (and a lot to not admit that to M although I knew I could and wanted to). I’ve hardly been monogamous since high school (I was monogamous with my ex but that was an on-off thing so I’m not sure it could count as a relationship) and I’ve slept with a number of men over the course of my life. I won’t say I have any sort of excuse for doing so but what I’ve realized is that maybe it’s just best to accept it as a part of myself. I’ve always felt attracted to certain men and I’ve always felt a desire and need for certain kinds of sex and sexuality. I’ve tried different things over my life - distracting myself from those things or distancing or denying them. But I’ve found that part of me just hungers and devours itself if I do that. And in the end I always (always!) just give in and binge.
I just can’t feel satisfied without fulfilling that part of me and M and I learned that the hard way after that summer.
I think that’s also the catalyst for us discussing it and openly sharing and fantasizing together. I guess I’m just lucky that M is so accepting and understanding. And that he (in his terms because he’s here as I’m writing this) “only wishes he could have seen me in action”. Don’t get me wrong it hurt both of us but we realized the secrecy was more harmful than anything. Lots of little talks and fantasy play and years of cuckolding later… and here we are. More in love (and busy!) than ever. And also more sexually fulfilled as a result.
And that’s also a big part of our play. M’s wish to have seen/to see me in action is a big dream of his. It’s something I tease him with (and allow him little glimpses when I feel he deserves it) and something we’re slowly building toward. He’s heard me over the phone once. He’s seen me flirting with and getting touched by my ex. But I’ve never let him actually see me. That’s something we both agree with for right now. Him seeing me should be something special. We’re still saving that.
So obviously that’s something M still wants to experience. As to where our boundaries are drawn? That’s something we still talk about. One obvious one for both of us is involving friends and family. We still haven’t done that and don’t intend to (and we talk with people on the internet because who else would we talk to?) and that’s for good reason. A lot of people we know just wouldn’t understand or accept it. And for the sake of just keeping things friendly and nice we don’t talk about it. We don’t give them any sort of clues (even including anyone we might want to include in our play. Like the Power-Flower couple!)
And I guess we don’t really have any other boundaries than that. We talk about things before they happen (for the most part although we’re relinquishing a tiny bit of that lately) and we always talk after things happen. There are sexual things both M and I won’t do but that’s more personal preference and I won’t mention those things on here. I guess a lot of the contrast that comes up is things we both desire and yet both stop ourselves from indulging in because of the risks associated with them. They’re pretty obvious and we mention them constantly so I won’t write them here either. But M’s things and my things are still things we talk about all the time.
Our fears are also based on those things I guess. Other than people finding out it’s really about the risk… but just like anything else in life the risk is part of it (and for us the risk can be so deliciously delightful to give in t… uhh) and we accept that. It’s a part of life. And we communicate with each other to mitigate any consequences from that. But we like to indulge sometimes. We talk about it and fantasize and sometimes we do give in just a little bit to make things more special. But again it’s all weighed and mitigated.
We plan and consider everything. And we talk and love. It isn’t always just sex or cuckolding (and it’s also why we haven’t been posting as much lately too) because there are times when we genuinely just spend time going for walks or playing video games or anything. Life can get pretty busy sometimes and it’s always important to make time. Because what’s life without actual (consequentless) fun?
Like I mentioned before… I just can’t live without the laughs and smiles and warm feelings M gives me.
- H & M