Q

smithcasual123 asked:

Can you share physical descriptions of H, M and her ex? Just trying to visualize, I'm guessing the ex is bigger in more ways than one....

A

I’m a little petite: 5 feet, my body isn’t too big, but I do have wider than average hips (about normal size for taller people I suppose) which is something M and I like to joke about sometimes in relation to how sex-crazy I get during certain times of my cycle. Other than that I’m pretty average and normal. I colour my hair and style it differently every so often. I’m rocking a ponytail and bangs right now.

M is pretty average as well. He’s not super skinny or super chubby but he’s a bit bigger compared me. About 5'10 and stocky. Not muscular but not fat either but a little big bodied. He has a very clean city look to him too. I’m not really sure what else to say about that.

My ex was big bodied as well but more muscular and harder. That’s the type I like. I don’t know what it is exactly… but when a man has a a broad jaw line and shoulder line and a hard chest and is just a man… that gets me going like nothing else. It’s a lot about attitude as well though… he has to take control, make me squirm, and make me feel like he isn’t afraid of breaking me and is just going all out. And I’ll admit I do get in the mood to be treated like property or a slave at times although that is a huge turn off outside the bedroom. To put it simply I guess it has a lot to do with confidence combined with a hot body.

- H

Q

heyheymanstuff asked:

H, do you like the thought/fantasy of being part of a harem of a single, dominant guy? I ask because of the hint in your last comic post.

A

Maybe a little bit.

M says I’m addicted to four things:

1) The thrill of being out of control (ie. falling in love, not using protection)
2) The thrill of being bad (ie. sleeping with men I know I shouldn’t)
3) Chocolate
4) Red wine

And since I’m currently a little tipsy, have a garbage bin with little shiny wrappers with the name “Kit-Kat” poking out, and just spent the past five hours masturbating beside him while talking about how far I fantasize about going with various men (a few of which M isn’t particularly fond of)… I’m inclined to believe him.

- H

We probably shouldn’t post this right away because it’s something that is only questionably accurate and subject to vast revision in the future, but these are the candidates we’re considering continuing the lifestyle with:

Mr. Biology
- A former classmate of H’s. Biology because it was the subject they had together. They ended up flirting even after she told him she had a boyfriend, but nothing ever came of it because they stopped texting each other. H still has his number, but hasn’t talked to him since, so it may not be a viable option.

Mr. Ego
- Someone H knew when she was in the “party” phase of her college life. As his name suggests, he thinks rather highly of himself and acts like he can get any girl in the world. H has always been attracted to him (and won’t say whether or not she has slept with him before), but isn’t sure he would be a good influence in the long run.

Mr. Sweet Talker
- Has a reputation of “stealing” girlfriends and getting off on it. H grew particularly curious after one of her friends suddenly switched her opinion on him and refused to talk about him in the presence of her boyfriend. At present, after a few late night confession calls and snooping on one of her friends’ phones, H knows at least three women who have definitely slept with him (two of which had boyfriends at the time.) If H was to sleep with him, it would be a chance to “cheat” with someone who gets off on having a long-lasting affair, and without having any feelings of guilt.

Mr. S
- So-called because “Mister S” sounds like “mysterious”. The candidate is someone H says M knows but won’t say who. She’s had a crush on him ever since she met him, but didn’t do anything about it because of the possible consequences and awkwardness. Seeing Mr. S would also be another opportunity to get the thrill of “cheating” without any guilt, but may also be crossing the “no friends and family” line.

Mr. Strangers
- The bar-variety or the online-variety. H has a few fantasies which involve strangers, sport-team studs, Doms, etc. We would have no idea where to start beyond Craigslist and our local pub, though.

Mr. & Mrs. Flower
- Our friends, the “flower couple”, subtly hinted that they swing in their spare time. The four of us were celebrating after their wedding, and although M wasn’t present for the conversation, H says it was an obvious invitation for something more. Their name comes from a play on “power couple” after an embarrassing photo of the bride taken at their wedding. H has no idea if Mrs. Flower has a sexual interest in M, as the couple only hinted at taking H into their bed.

Each candidate has their own risks and rewards, so we’ll need to sleep on it.

And yes, we would love to hear input from couples who’ve been there before.

- M & H

We want to say sorry for not updating this week.

There’s been a big development between H and her ex. He’s started seeing someone. He’s gone on two dates with her and they are really hitting it off, so H and him had a talk last night and decided to stop seeing each other.

But we just want to say that it’s not a bad thing. In M’s mind, the emotional connection was uncharted territory, so it’s a good way to step back and evaluate. And in H’s mind, the intimacy was good to feel again, but a lot of the excitement of “falling again” fizzled out into familiarity. She even started seeing some of the little reasons why they broke up in the first place.

It’s raining and we’re spending today at home together, so we’ll be answering our backlog of asks and any we receive right away. We’ll also make a post either tonight or tomorrow about where we plan to go from here. We have a few possibilities, but one thing’s for sure: neither of us wants to stop this lifestyle. The things we feel comprise a force more powerful than any addiction we’ve ever imagined… and we love it.

- H & M

We’re okay. We haven’t broken up, we’re just busy, and more in love than ever. But thank you all for asking!

Valentine’s went better than expected with my ex staying over the full night and part of the day after. It was very intimate and we all loved it. M and I both experienced new emotions and new heights of emotion and excitement.

But we do have some news…

- H

It wasn’t entirely exclusive between H and her ex, though. She came to see me in the night, in a very loving moment. And that’s why we made the above caption together.

No matter your kink or fetish, no matter your style of life or romance or depravity, the most important part of any sexual relationship (aside from communication) isn’t the sex.

It’s the aftercare. It’s every moment in between sex. It’s watching sunlight filter in through the window in the morning, it’s hugging your loved one from behind while they drink coffee before work. It’s saying “I love you”, and meaning it.

- M

The news M and I have is: we’re stopping this blog. We’ve been so busy lately that we haven’t had the time to update and we both want to focus more on our relationship and our future.

So we’re sad to say goodbye but this blog will still be up for anyone who wants to read it in the future. We just won’t be here updating it.

- H

We want you all to know that this is an equal decision. We’re getting closer to our degrees and moving forward with our careers, so we just won’t have the time or energy to use tumblr as much. We’re trying to be better people, a better couple, and as anyone with a professional life knows (and we’re finding out), that’s not easy.

We answered most of the non-“are you okay?” asks sent to us anonymously, and we’ll try to answer any others sent to us before the weekend ends. We won’t be logging in after that.

- M

So that’s our last post. We just wanted to say thank you and end on a positive note. And we both wanted to write our own words so you know how we both feel.

Again, thank you all. We wish all of you the very best in your relationships and your lives.

- H & M

M got a new toy today. It’s a “fleshlight” we ordered a while ago. He timed it perfectly for tomorrow… for Valentine’s day… the day we’re finally going to start playing with “love” for the first time… our biggest taboo and turn on…

As soon as my ex comes over I’ll be in date mode with him. In our apartment. In me and my boyfriend’s home. Every fibre of my mind and body… and heart… is going to be devoted to him while my boyfriend sits in a dark corner and watches… and then listens… when we lock the bedroom door for the evening. We’ve talked and he might even stay the night. I really want that. A full night of unprotected, loving sex with my ex. I really want that for my boyfriend too. I want him to know just how intimate I’m starting to feel and be with my ex…

- H

H and I are writing this post together because tomorrow is going to be a big experience for us. We have our safety–if either of us says the safeword, we talk, and end it if necessary. But if all goes well, I’m sure I won’t be sleeping in our bed.

H wants me to hold off as long as I can. No masturbation, no touching while they eat and talk. Not so much as a noise out of me.

But as soon as the bedroom door locks, I’ll be free to do what I want. H wants me to use the fleshlight as much as I can–she wants me to hear and feel what I’m giving up.

She wants me to make a realistic effort, and have that effort be wasted, while she gives him everything.

God, I love my girlfriend.

- M

Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?
Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…
- H

Do you ever wonder what happens to those fairytales when you grow up?

Also.. I wonder what it would be like to be part of the Peter Pan’s mermaid harem… and what it would be like to sleep with the beast or the big, bad wolf…

- H

There must be a million thoughts running through her head… there must be a million things a woman must feel when she’s hooking up with her ex again… a person she has an entire history with… all those thoughts, memories, hidden little secrets… feelings…

And there must be a million more things she feels when she has a boyfriend. There’s probably a million questions too… is she cheating? Is he better? Is it his size? His stamina? His body? His attitude? His scent? His taste? The feeling of his body around hers? Is it passion? Horniness? Comfort and security? How much does she really want him? Could she see herself with him again? Does she want to do it again? Do what? Have sex? Fuck? Make love? Does she feel like she’s falling for him again? Did she ever love him in the first place? Does she still love him? Does she want to feel those feelings for him again…?

A million little things and thoughts and feelings that I guess none of us will ever know…

Well… maybe some of us know.

;)

- H

Q

erikthomas1 asked:

Does M do anything for you sexually? I get that you get the emotional needs fulfilled by him, but does he get you off?

A

He does. He actually isn’t that bad at sex… but he’s just not the best.

That’s why I cheated on him in the first place. I just felt I needed more. It has to do with M’s size and his stamina and maybe something psychological I can’t explain. Don’t get me wrong. We still have sex but for some reason I’ve grown to get off even more when I’m seeing him moan and squirm and begging me to let him come.

But I guess that’s because I’m having better sex now. If M was the only one I was having sex with I would make due… I’m just glad I don’t have to do that anymore. I love M and I love making love with him when it’s time for that… but mostly I just love teasing him and seeing him get off when I get off with other men.

So I do get off with him… but I just get off a whole lot more when I see him come in his hand or mine or a tissue… completely helpless and useless… all while knowing I’m just days or hours or minutes away from fucking someone who actually satisfies me.

- H

M gets all hard when we play with the idea of me fucking someone who bullies him…

And I get all wet when we play with the idea of me fucking someone who bullies him…

Maybe we should really plan out the reality of me fucking someone who bullies him…

;)

- H

Q

thatguy240-blog asked:

Did you know either of the 2 guys H cheated on you with?

A

M sort of “knew” them but didn’t “know” them. I met both in classes and M had seen both of them before. I talked about both of them with him (and eventually stopped talking about them when I started cheating… M saw that in hindsight when I cheated the second time so he suspected soon after I started doing it again but never let on) but they weren’t M’s friends or anything.

To be honest I don’t think I could cheat on someone M actually knows well. I don’t think either of us would be able to let go of the fact that I cheat on someone he actually sees on a day to day basis. Don’t get me wrong it’s something we’ve both played with and gets us hot but it just seems too dangerous. It’s the same reason I only cucked him with people I knew I wouldn’t see again. It’s much less risky.

I guess all of that sort of goes out the window with my ex a bit. I’m seeing him more and more but at the end of the day M and I both know if one of us says the safeword he gets kicked from our life. So it’s not that big of a risk I guess.

So make no mistake. M is the only one I love and the only constant I want in my life. :)

- H

Q

freshestofdemall-deactivated201 asked:

Do you think u will ever show a pic of H ?

A

I don’t plan on posting photos of myself ever no.

It really comes down to the fact that I just don’t want things like that “out there”. If I post them then they’re still available on other blogs if people reblog them even if we take them down on our blog. And that’s not the worst part. At least with reblogs we can track who posts them and ask them to take them down… but there is just no way to track people who just save them and post them on their own blog or a porn site or “ex girlfriend” site which can really ruin someone’s life.

And before anyone says “no one can tell, we’ll never even see your face” I’d argue that yeah it can be rather easy to tell. Especially since I have some features (a tattoo, freckles, little moles) which are really easy to tell. It’s kind of like a human barcode. When you see it you can tell. And I’m not really willing to risk a career (I won’t say what my future university degree is either) over that.

It’s the same reason I use condoms with anyone I don’t know and don’t take oral contraceptives. All of them are risks which could ruin my life.

- H

Q

eurytopicimp asked:

I absolutely love your blog! A big thanks to you both! I was wondering if there is yet a special piece of jewelry or clothing that H wears, around M, that is worn to act as a teasing, visual, non-verbal reminder of special relationship with her ex?

A

First of all thank you!

Not really jewelry but that’s because I’m not really into wearing things like that. But there are some special pieces of clothing yes. M has bought me/we’ve bought together a lot of stuff over the years that are rather special. M’s a complete romantic even if he doesn’t let it on so he loves celebrating anniversaries, holidays, etc. with things.

A few of those things include things like skirts, cutoffs, dresses, low neck shirts, etc. that I usually only wore when M and I were dating. Seeing me wear those again for my ex while I date him is kind of a special feeling that M and I get to experience which is exciting. So I wouldn’t say it’s anything in particular just how I dress. Super sexy but not for my boyfriend.

There’s also a really nice white lace set that M bought me for my birthday during our first year together that we love playing with and which I might involve during my upcoming Valentines day with my ex. But I’ll say more about that after the day actually happens.

- H

Q

boredbutawake asked:

Ok I get trigger words. Most people, in their fantasies, go further than what they're actually doing in reality -- that's the whole point I guess. But you already are going pretty far for real. Apart from H falling for her ex or going bare, do you enjoy other fantasies that go further than what you're prepared to do in reality? And by the way, do you read erotica, and if so, do you have any suggestion? I've already read all of your posts and I haven't found anything coming close :)

A

I’m coupling this with a response to another ask about “does H ever go too far?”

H did cheat on me twice before we talked about cuckolding, and that was too far. It hurt both of us.

But even if something does hurt, if it turns us on and doesn’t hurt our relationship, we often enter into explore mode. We fantasize and use safe words when things go too far or get to the verge of that. Then we talk, try to pick apart the idea or thing, find a way for it to turn both of us on, or try something else entirely.

A big part of that talk is also things we’re unsure of. Things we like in fantasy but not reality or not yet. We’re going far, but that’s only because we’ve talked about and tried so much already. We have other things we want to try but might scare us as well, and those are things we talk about before we ever cross the bridge. We support each other and that’s what allows us to cross those bridges and come back, if necessary.

As for fantasies and future realities?

We’re not really sure of that yet. We’re still talking and we’d like to keep a lot of that private. But some of the things we’ve mentioned on the blog besides H falling for her ex or going bare include H being “sold” to other men (she has a big prostitution / escort fantasy), H sleeping with a stranger (she loved to party and be promiscuous for a little while and we’d both love for her to let loose again, although there are safety issues there), H being with more than one man (although again, safety issues), and things like denial or chastity (although we’re still not sure about chastity cages.)

If you’re looking for more things to turn you on in the time between our posts, feel free to look up the “cuckolding” and “cheating” tags on Literotica. There’s a lot of stuff on there, but the stories with four or more stars are usually good.

- M

We got a mail thing a while ago asking what we mean by “trigger” words.

What we mean when we talk about including words like “cheat”, “betray”, “bare”, “better”, etc. when we play is the emotions associated with them. If I tell M I’m “going out to see someone” as opposed to “I’m going out to cheat on you again”… there are different feelings associated with it. On one hand going out with someone reminds him that we’re both perfectly okay with the situation. And on the other hand “cheating” brings up emotions of jealousy and angst in him and betrayal and guilt in me.

But we don’t just like those emotions themselves. If he’s always angsty and I’m always guilty we both get turned off and we stop playing. But instead what we like to do is use those emotions in combination with ideas. Like I’m “cheating” on him because he’s helpless or he is too small to satisfy me or I just really want to fuck someone even though it’s something that hurts him (but then also makes him hard).

I guess it’s like M said in the whole caveman thing. We both know at the end of the day I don’t “love” my ex and I don’t “cheat” with other men and I don’t “hurt” M in any actual way. We don’t have to constantly say “oh are you okay with this? this is such a wonderful relationship we have!” because that goes without saying. So instead we just say the things that get him hard and me all warm and wet: like “I’m sorry sweety… I just really can’t stop cheating on you… my pussy just needs cock so badly…” or “you know I’m falling for my ex again… and yet all you can do is sit there and masturbate… you know I go bare with the man I love right?”

We use those words and phrases to work each other up and push each other over the edge (in many instances where it might be otherwise hard to do so… like the game we play where we can’t touch ourselves). So even though I’m not “falling” for my ex or “cheating” on him… both of those ideas–that my body is so insatiable I would do it because I can’t stop myself or that the hormones and chemicals I feel during sex and orgasm become so intense that I feel like I’m falling for someone–turn us on like nothing else. It’s like hitting a really sensitive spot in someone’s body except it’s psychological.

And if you’ve ever fantasized about anything other than a blowjob or normal missionary position… and that fantasy has turned you on more than normal… then that’s pretty much all it is. An idea or image you use to get off.

I hope that helps!

- H