We’ve been experimenting more and more with words and phrases and ideas that get M close to coming without me touching him…

We’ve done it a few times actually. We would never actually do something like the agreement above but it’s really fun playing with the thought and trying to make him do it… it’s like when we first had sex… it’s so easy to get him off…

And it really does get me soaking wet as well… I have no idea why but it does. And as M knows… it also makes me want to fuck my ex like nothing else in the world. Oh… it’s so nice when my boyfriend gets me all soaking wet and heated up for my ex…

- H

cuckytoher:

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I’m sure you have heard about “revenge porn” where people post naked pictures or videos of their exes online to get back at them. There are laws in many states prohibiting “revenge porn” but there are still hundreds of websites out there with stuff out there claiming to be “revenge porn.” Many…

Something I felt I had to reblog.

There are many motivations for cuckolding within a couple, but revenge should never be one of them.

- M

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Q

boredbutawake asked:

Not sure if you have the classic cuckold/wedding fantasies, but I'm curious if it would be more like a great wedding ending with H's ex enjoying the bride and M having to sleep on the couch, or more in the line of... well, H deciding to marry her ex instead?

A

I don’t want to marry my ex. We broke up for a reason and I don’t ever see myself actually being in a relationship with only him anymore. I did in high school but that was before I got to know him and way before I met M. And M gives me what I need in the emotional and mental sense (comfort, security, geekiness, total openmindedness, love) which no one has ever given me before. I have this feeling with M like everything is always going to be alright and that’s something I need.

So if we were going to have a wedding it most likely wouldn’t involve my ex in any way. It would involve the man I love and want to spend the rest of my life with and the people who love seeing us together. I’d make love with him when everything’s over and maybe even make a new member of our family as well. And even if I might like the thought of risking pregnancy with my ex or every other man I get into bed with… the idea of actually having a child with them is a big turn off and a real life consequence I don’t want.

So more like a small wedding with the people we love and a honeymoon that is all about me and M.

… and a bunch of nights before and after of me in a sweaty, cummy mess on top of, below, beside, or in whatever else sex positions with my ex or any number of other men :)

- H

H has been a non-stop rub-and-tease-‘til-we’re-both-a-mess insatiable woman lately. I woke up last night to find her fingering herself and moaning his name and a bunch of trigger words. And when she saw I was watching, she replaced one of her hands with mine. She pressed my fingers into her and kept going. I’ve never felt her that wet.

And that’s the essence of this for us. To get so worked up that sex with her ex is not only a hot thought but an inevitable pleasure for her. To let her body communicate unabashedly what it wants, and to act on those desires despite any societal restrictions. To let our minds indulge those dark spaces, to embrace those trigger words and take control of them.

And that’s why we play with “love.” That’s why we play with “dating”, “ex”, “betrayal”, “cheat”, “unprotected”, “risk”, “bare”, “intimate”, etc. Those things are mostly fantasy (she has no plans on leaving me, she has no plans on loving her ex the same way she loves me, and her ex knows that) but we like the feelings associated with them. They’re taboo and wrong. And that turns us on.

So no, H won’t ever “love” her ex. She’s beginning to have an emotional connection again, she feels excitement and the flutter of infatuation, and her body floods with chemicals and hormones when she’s with him, but that’s what we want. That’s something we want to play with.

Not love, but the acts and feelings associated with it.

- M

We got another few asks about how we define our relationship, so consider this an addition to another post we made long ago.

We aren’t really an “open relationship” or “swinging couple”. “Half-open” or “sometimes open” might be more accurate. H is open to have anyone she wants (I can veto anyone, but that’s something I’ve never used nor had to use) except she doesn’t like seeing herself that way. Our arrangement evolves as needed, and right now the only man she considers having a sexual relationship with is her ex. Neither of us are going to see anyone outside of the circle (triangle?) to keep things simple and controllable, but if we do in the future feel more comfortable, it’ll open up.

We’re not a “Dominant and submissive”. Neither H nor I holds power over the other, and neither of us gives up power. But it does get tricky. Here’s an example: H will use her hands or the outside of her body on me, then walk away. In that moment I’ll want nothing more than to come, but by going to take a shower or texting with her ex she’ll be taking that away from me. Another example: H might be texting her ex, and he’ll tell her to start masturbating. In both moments, we’re clearly subjecting ourselves to someone controlling what we do, but they’re singular moments nonetheless. So “Dom” and “sub” tend to be kinky moments, and not our lifestyle altogether.

We aren’t a “female-led relationship” because H doesn’t hold the majority of power. We’re a normal couple, especially in public. In private, H enjoys teasing me, but that doesn’t mean she holds all the power. At every moment, we both consent and agree to anything that happens–whether it be during teasing, having sex, having sex while playing with her being mean, or her going on a date with her ex.

Also, I’ll take this moment to re-recommend listening to Adam Cohen’s “What Other Guy”. Aside from being a beautiful tender song (with a beautiful redhead who reminds me H, sans the freckles), it also has a subtle cuckolding theme to it.

Pay attention to the lines: “I know what you want by what you’re wearing / The kind of night you’re preparing” and “I know where you go with your beautiful friends / I know what you taste like when the night ends”.

There’s actually a lot of cuckolding imagery in the song, but I’ll leave that for you to discover. Have a listen here if you so desire.

Take care and be well.

- M

A bit of my more extreme teasing play with M tonight…

I’ve really been getting more “excitement and emotions and things” with my ex lately… more intimate… M knows it and can see it and I love how anxious and constantly on edge and hard it’s making him. It’s really fun.

I wonder if he’ll really be okay when all of what I said becomes a reality though… I wonder if I asked him right now would he really sleep on the couch while my ex comes over… I wonder if I told him I love my ex right now… if he would come on the spot. We’ve been playing with that a lot today… me trying to make him come with just my words and me doing things with my body but him not being able to touch me…

And I know M is going to read this in a few minutes… so… M when you read this I want you to know I found your little Valentines idea list… I want you to know I saw this was one of the ideas you were really thinking hard about… and I want you to know this is what’s going to happen. That’s going to be my Valentines gift to you… to have a “love day and night” with my ex… in our bed… with the door locked so I can be alone and intimate with him…

I just need you to come and tell me you want me to… okay? I love you.

- H

What I’ve been doing in front of M this evening… he’s getting pretty jealous with everything I’m saying… and doing… and he’s gotten pretty hard too…

- H

Q

boredbutawake asked:

Perhaps this falls into the category of things that H does with her ex that she doesn't want to tell but, surely, H and her ex are discussing M. Is this always in a respectful manner or does the dork/bully relation still is present when H is alone with her ex?

A

Indeed they are. I think, in order for the arrangement to work in the first place, communicate between everyone has to involve everyone, and I’m certainly a topic that comes up for them.

Especially during their first set of dates, H and her ex spent a lot of time talking about limits and such, and he was curious about the reasons why I’d be okay with her seeing him again, and who I had grown into after high school. So they do discuss me, but not as much as those first days. When they’re playing, it’s all about them.

We’ve talked once together (all three of us over lunch) and he’s actually quite nice. He still has that bit of the socially dominant and non-chalant air that he had in high school, and he still has a bit of a thing for her, but he respects our relationship and rules nonetheless.

And if we’re being honest, he’s actually sort of our ideal candidate. Back in high school the reason they broke up was no matter how much fun and sex they had, he was never really into the quieter stay-at-home moments of relationships which H loves (and vice versa with me; I’m not that into fast going fun, which H loves and gets from him.) So H gets the best of both worlds in that regard.

We still have bullying moments, but they actually mostly come from H teasing me. Case in point: we were playing casually last night while watching tv. She was texting him and orating what each of them was saying “He says he wants to kiss me so badly right now… he says he wants to kiss me all over my body… I’m going to tell him I wish he could just come over and do it right now… sweety, don’t you see what he’s doing to your girlfriend?” while her other hand was buried in her panties.

Needless to say, it’s not really bullying, but it’s sort of a passive turn on for both of us. And it’s something that happens when she’s alone with either of us (and more in the direction of “you’re so powerful, you’re so strong, take me now, take me from him” when she’s with him.)

It’s a big benefit for each of us.

- M

Q

boredbutawake asked:

Here's a real good question though... Anything planned for Valentine's Day? ;)

A

We’ve talked about a few things, but H has her mind pretty set on one thing which I’m sure she’s going to make happen. We’ve talked about it, and if you’ve read any of our posts about her and my biggest fantasies, I’m sure you can guess what it is. It’s a safe time for her, and she’s really been teasing me with the idea of taking him unprotected again, so that’s going to be the most likely thing.

In all likelihood, it’ll probably be a few days of that, but something more special on Valentine’s day itself. I have a few ideas kicking around my head, but as mentioned in a past post, mentioning it here would be spoiling it for her.

We’ll just have to see.

- M

Q

thatguy240-blog asked:

Have you had any high school bully fantasies come up yet?

A

Ohhhh yeah. That’s a big one for us.

That’s a bit of why he kind of wanted me to see my ex in the first place I guess. There wasn’t much bullying going on but more like my ex (and I to some extent) disregarded him as a dork and someone who really didn’t fit into our social circle. We were the “popular kids” and he was a nobody and that feeling of social dominance is a turn on for him (and myself as well).

But if you’re talking about did he get beat up or would I get turned on by someone doing that to him? No. Neither of us is into actual physical harm (him being tied up or me being spanked doesn’t count) and I don’t think I could ever date or have sex with anyone who meant to actually genuinely hurt M.

But being mean to him in verbal or emotional terms is still an area of play for us. Me telling him my ex is bigger, better, and whatever else is always a big turn on for him. And I also like playing with the idea that I’m willing to do more for my ex because he’s a better or stronger man. And also with the idea that my ex could boss me or M around and that he takes what he wants. And him taking me could be like him taking M’s lunch money or a toy on the playground… that’s a feeling we love to play with.

In fact one of my favourite ways to tease M is to say something like “Aww sweety… don’t you know he’s taking me away from you? Are you really just going to sit there and cry like a little boy and jerk off? Aren’t you going to try and stop him?” and then something like “Hmm… I guess you’re right. He would actually win if you tried to get into a physical fight or anything… well I guess you should just go home and play some video games while I go with him to his house… and we fuck in his bedroom for a few hours… try not to masturbate too much thinking about him coming inside me okay?”

So yeah… seeing him get all worked up thinking about me or another man being passively mean to him (or him wanting me and yet not being able to because another man has taken me away) is something that gets him really angsty and hard and me really wet. But I guess it’s like there is a line between being mean and being hurtful too. And we only like to play on one side of it.

- H

Why else do you think Mario would keep on trying to rescue Princess Peach!?
Also that doesn’t look like Mario in the last image… Mario is a lot… shorter.
In other news we’ve been playing a lot of Mario lately! M is the nerdiest guy I’ve ever been... Why else do you think Mario would keep on trying to rescue Princess Peach!?
Also that doesn’t look like Mario in the last image… Mario is a lot… shorter.
In other news we’ve been playing a lot of Mario lately! M is the nerdiest guy I’ve ever been... Why else do you think Mario would keep on trying to rescue Princess Peach!?
Also that doesn’t look like Mario in the last image… Mario is a lot… shorter.
In other news we’ve been playing a lot of Mario lately! M is the nerdiest guy I’ve ever been...

Why else do you think Mario would keep on trying to rescue Princess Peach!?

Also that doesn’t look like Mario in the last image… Mario is a lot… shorter.

In other news we’ve been playing a lot of Mario lately! M is the nerdiest guy I’ve ever been with but I love him for it. And he loves the nerdy part of me as well.

- H

At the end of the day I love that despite everything Princess Peach does she and Mario are still a super cute and capable power couple. Nothing can stop them. And they’ll always belong to each other.
- H At the end of the day I love that despite everything Princess Peach does she and Mario are still a super cute and capable power couple. Nothing can stop them. And they’ll always belong to each other.
- H

At the end of the day I love that despite everything Princess Peach does she and Mario are still a super cute and capable power couple. Nothing can stop them. And they’ll always belong to each other.

- H

All true, and a big part of the fantasy for us. H has a bit of a promiscuous past and loves to dress fun and flirty. She has a bit of a public exhibitionist side as well (more by the secretness of it instead of it being blatant, such as going around in a dress without panties as opposed to a super short skirt.)

There’s also a subtle humiliation about it. The idea that she’s more willing to dress sexy for him than for me is a big turn on for both of us (as is the idea of her getting more wild in bed with him too.)

And for those of you who want a few more details, H is indeed “dating” her ex. They flirt and text, go on dates, and have fun. They fuck too, but it’s in addition to everything else. We love that she gets to experience that excitement and feeling all over again.

Some of the practical things we’ve dealt with include whether or not he should pick her up where we live (we opted for her to go over to his place to make sure no one suspects anything, even though we’re not really close to or worried about anyone in our apartment building) and where exactly their dates and fun should take place (as of right now, they’ve only had dates at places our friends and family don’t usually go, and the secret’s remained kept so far.)

- M

Q

wannawatchher asked:

Dear lord, your stories and captions are incredibly hot. I am sure I am not alone in wanting to read every detail about H and her ex-boyfriend's tryst. Will you tell us all about it?

A

Thank you. But I’m not really sure I want to make long posts about what I do with my ex. I tell them to M when we’re in bed and those sessions take long enough and even when they’re short that’s mostly because I want to tease him and withhold information.

Either way I guess it would just take too long to post things and I think we both post enough in the captions anyway. And if I posted the things I withhold from him to share at a later date then it would kind of ruin keeping them from him in the first place because M reads this blog just as much as I do.

So if you enjoy our captions and what we write under them (or live vicariously through them) then that’s great! But at the end of the day we both want this blog to be about us and if we start writing everything out for everyone else then that kind of puts our priorities in jeopardy. And prioritizing your partner is the most important thing in this lifestyle as you can probably guess.

- H

Some of the feelings we play with include humiliation, jealousy, angst, regret, and on the more extreme end infatuation and betrayal. After a few asks about H being mean, we’ve taken a closer look at ourselves during play sessions.

We’ve realised before that she gets more wet when we include it. But only recently we’ve figured that it’s not to the exclusion of feelings, it only happens when we combine them. For example, her being verbally mean to me (degrading my size or experience, etc.) doesn’t turn us on. It’s only in the context of having a lover (“he’s so much bigger and better, you could never compare to him”.)

And I think that’s good. It helps us understand ourselves and better hone our sexual skills with each other. Perhaps even help each other be more turned on in the future.

So I’d just like to say thanks to anyone who’s sent an ask or is going to. We hope you benefit from these discussions as well.

- M