M and I are playing more and more with games like this. We’ve never made any concrete promises but I love teasing him and making him think it will happen one day soon. And for all we know it actually might.

And if you’re wondering yes I am quite “all natural”. It’s something I haven’t done for a long time but it’s something I’ve changed my mind about since we got so much closer. I love the way it makes me feel more womanly. Not feminine but like actual women should be/have been for most of human history. It’s not for everyone but we love it.

And for M I think it’s mostly psychological. I was all natural in high school and maybe on some level it brings his biggest fantasy to life more for him. That or he knows it reminds me of my ex… it’s probably a bit of both. They’re pretty much the same thing and I’ll admit it’s kinda working…

- H

Q

yourdarkestplace asked:

Great blog. I think I'm noticing a bit of dom/sub play in some of the captions and I would love to know, does H in particular feel a bit switchy sometimes? It's perhaps obvious she likes to be the one in power when you two are together, but is it the same with the men she has played with/wants to play with or does she feel more like giving them the reins instead?

A

I do like being in power with M most of the time. I don’t know why it’s just more thrilling for both of us and it feels… right. I don’t know how to put it into words but it feels more natural or honest for who we are.

When it comes to other men I would say I like it when instead of me giving the reins they just take them. Of course I have limits but for the most part I want someone who knows what I want deep down and just gives it to me without me having to ask.

That’s part of the fantasy for us too. We like talking about pushing our limits and “another man taking me from my boyfriend” is a big thing for both of us. It gets M more anxious and excited than anything else and it’s the weirdest thrill for me too. It’s probably most evident in our talk about me maybe seeing my ex again… M knows I’m all hormones and brain chemicals whenever I was with him and I was with him for years so he knows my cycles, what buttons to push and when, etc. That’s a big thing for M and it’s definitely one of the deeper points of play for us.

But so to answer your question… yes I do feel more dom with M and more submissive with certain other men.

- H

Q

cuminmygirl22 asked:

One more question for either of you. My girl told me that if she had to pick one of my friends it would be a friend I'll call Steve. I keep bugging her about Steve joining in with us and she keep saying no that she doesn't need or want another guy other than me. How do I go about getting this to happen or at least let her know I am REALLY turned on by it without freaking her out and or losing her?

A

Well, if you’ve read our story, you’ll know it was a rather forced thing for us. She cheated, and we had to talk about our relationship because of that.

But I had fantasized about her in that way long before that moment (back in highschool, in fact) and that gave me a long while to figure out what turned me on and what I wanted. When we finally started talking about it, it just sort of came out. I told her I was into it, and things got a little physical, and ended in sex. To be honest, we weren’t entirely sober, and it just felt like things got out of control because we had no idea where our relationship was going.

That started things. Don’t get me wrong, we definitely had doubts. I didn’t want her to think that I thought of her in only one way (she had slept with a few guys before we started getting close as friends) and I didn’t want her to think I was a pervy freak. She was really worried that I was only going along with it because I didn’t want her to leave (which wasn’t untrue) or as a way to cope with her cheating.

The truth is, the only thing that makes it work is communication. Once something happens–she cheats, or you both roleplay a fantasy in bed, or you see something in a movie together and you discuss it the day after–that’s when you know if both of you can handle it or not. But, at least in my experience, it is rather tricky. If either of you closes up, then you could lose the possibility forever (especially if the other partner keeps pushing.)

So: introduce the idea, don’t push, and let her figure out if she’s into it. Communicate, and if she decides she’s not into it, let it drop. You can’t change what she’s into just as much as she can’t change what you’re into.

- M

p.s. It definitely is a constant process once you begin. Even now, we talk things through to test our limits and reassure each other.

Sometimes I feel like our captions are just teases and sometimes I feel like they’re love notes because it’s a way we can communicate which hardly any other couples can. I feel like I know M so much better than anyone ever has!

- H

Q

cuminmygirl22 asked:

To M: How do you handle letting M sleep with strangers and such? I really like the idea of my girl sleeping around and being honest with me about it all but at the same time I am scared I won't like it. I would have no problem with another guy joining in because I'm in the room but just her and another guy scares me a little.

A

H hasn’t slept with a ton of strangers (we’re mostly afraid of her safety), but the first time it happened was the biggest. There truly is nothing in the world like knowing the person you love just slept with someone else.

When we were lying in bed and she told me about it after, it was one of the most intense moments I’ve ever felt. It was a cocktail of emotions–jealousy and angst, horniness and need, comfort and love, and ambiguity. We were tentative about it, talked about it, and I will admit I felt a little guilty the next morning. It took a lot of reassurance from both of us that nothing was going to change between us.

Strangely though, the biggest thing I’ve noticed is just an emotional closeness that we didn’t have before. We communicate more and are more open and honest about things (partly through necessity, partly through who we are as people) and I think that comes from coming out of that first night (the “crisis moment” we like to call it) on top.

It certainly isn’t for all couples though, and it took us a long time to even get to the point where we could talk about it seriously and begin planning.

- M

I can get a little domme-y sometimes, and M loves light humiliation and heavy teasing
- H I can get a little domme-y sometimes, and M loves light humiliation and heavy teasing
- H I can get a little domme-y sometimes, and M loves light humiliation and heavy teasing
- H I can get a little domme-y sometimes, and M loves light humiliation and heavy teasing
- H

I can get a little domme-y sometimes, and M loves light humiliation and heavy teasing

- H

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Q

behindmyboyfriendsback asked:

Hey, glad to see you finally created a proper tumblr! So, you two still haven't mentioned what each of your biggest fantasies are. What are they, if you don't mind me asking? :)

A

Well, since you answered dozens of our questions, the least we could do is repay the favour, right?

M’s biggest fantasy is probably what he mentioned in his last caption: seeing H with her love/hate ex. (Although love/hate-fuck ex might be more accurate.) He gets turned on by the jealousy of that fantasy more than anything else, and it always shows when H mentions it in bed.

H’s biggest fantasy changes every now and then, but the one that gets her going time after time has always been risking pregnancy. She isn’t on the pill (she hasn’t been on the pill or other contraceptives due to a complicated medical condition, as we told you) and she’s not all that fond of condoms. So being with someone unprotected and not caring about what time of the month it is heats her like nothing else.

Although H has been a bit risky in the past, the second is mostly fantasy.

We’re currently thinking about the first. But if we do bring her ex into the fold, we’d do everything to mitigate any threats to our relationship. We’re not really worried though; we communicate endlessly (we learned our lesson after breaking up and not talking things through) and we both feel secure with what we have.H finds something in M that no one else has ever given her, and M feels the same way about her.
- M & H