After much deliberation and introspection and consultation from friends and colleagues, we decided to end our relationship with Mr.
We won’t get into the exact details but suffice to say it was a mutual decision between both me and M.
But we did seek a lot of input from our Flower Power-Couple friends (one or both of whom may or may not be professional counselors) as well as a lot of media out there (and by that we mean movies, books, academic articles, etc) and spent a lot of our time together being introspective over the past couple of months.
Part of that was also due to work. We were busy and getting along with our lives so a more and more involved relationship with Mr was just becoming less and less possible (he was getting quite busy as well). But part of it was also M and I just spending more time as a couple and feeling ourselves change in terms of fantasies and interests.
So although we did enjoy indulging in my sub side we also noticed it became less about cuckolding. For the more psychologically-inclined you could dig into my past and interpret it in terms of learned helplessness or a variant of self-harm or self-punishment, and in the end a lot of our relationship with Mr became something unhealthy for both of us. And that’s not something either of us could see ourselves living with.And in light of all that we started talking with our close “flower couple” friends. They shared a few of their own experiences and among other things I realized that I love the power of being with M. Not just sexual exploration and empowerment but also the strength and experience to be able to comfort, to fulfill, and to love.
And that power is something I do thrive on. M might even be more of a sub himself (not in the BDSM sense but in a relationship sense… if that makes sense?). He’s loving and one of the most wonderful people in the world but he also loves and thrives on being with a strong partner. Our best friend couple and even the few others we talked about it with agreed.
So that’s what we agreed upon with going forward: we want to remain a strong couple. We want to continue experimenting. And we want both want to continue cuckolding.
The main change we want to make is to have more of a focus on myself taking the initiative with other men. And for them to be more strictly sexual experiences.
We want more of that sense of excitement and anything-can-happen-ness (that’s totally not a word) we had earlier on in our cuckolding experiences. And while things like that may be a little more diffcult as time goes on (with things like work especially) we do have a few plans and avenues we’re thinking of.
But until then… we’ll just have to see!
- H and M
M and I both love looking at ourselves like this. It’s also partly why I still think letting him watch is/would be a reward beyond all other rewards.
There’s nothing more hot than actually being able to see yourself and your partner (or someone who isn’t your partner) being together. A lot goes through your head. It’s such a great experience!
- H
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Forever reblog…
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Q
desiresofame-deactivated2017052 asked:
Hey, is there any chance you happen to know what happened to cheatingcollegegirl? She suddenly stopped posting a month ago. I just love the way she writes. Regards
A
I’ll answer this because we’ve got a ton of asks about her recently.
First of all: no. Neither M nor I know. And I’m pretty sure most other people on tumblr wouldn’t know either.
But if she and her boyfriend are anything like us (or 90% of the other cuck couples on here) she’s busy. She might be busy with work. She might be busy fucking some stranger’s brains out. She might be busy seeing a couples counselor because it’s affecting their relationship. She might be trying other fantasies with him.
In our time here on tumblr/starting with the whole cuckolding reality altogether we’ve found that it often ebbs and flows. Sometimes I want to fuck one of M’s friends or his boss etc. and I’ll obsess over that for a month (roleplaying and fantasizing and masturbating alongside him or alone) and swear I’ll be able to think about nothing else for as long as I live.
Then one week it might change. Maybe I’ll be really into wanting to turn M into a dom and just feeling be a man for me. Maybe I’ll look up things like taken-in-hand relationships and various other soft kinds of BDSM stuff. We’ll have talks about it and fantasies and try things out.
Then one week it could change again and I’ll be really into Adventure Time or The Walking Dead (don’t spoil this latest season by the way- M and I have yet to watch and we’ll kick anyone in the face who tells us what happens) or anything. It could be an anime or a certain kind of food or stuffed animals.
Then maybe we come back to me wanting someone to take me from him and want a much more involved sort of cuckolding situation. We might fantasize about sex during risky times or with someone who bullied M or Doms and new relationship energy and stirring our emotion cocktails etc. etc.
And maybe sometimes we’ll just want to be a normal couple and go out for a nice walk and dinner somewhere. Then come back home to snuggle up.
So in the end it changes fairly regularly. It’s always a relationship that has to be considered in terms of a couple and not just cuckolding. Things like work and family and moods and hobbies and interests are the reality. Cuckolding is just one aspect of that (powerful though it may be at times).
tl;dr I think our last major post was about a month ago? We’re busy with work and cartoons and making pierogi’s and maintaining our quirky-in-an-awesome-way couple-status so that’s probably why. Maybe other people on tumblr don’t post for weeks or months on end because of the same reasons.
And as with a lot of other couples we do like to limit the personal details we post here too… so it’s not the same as an everyday blog for us. It usually takes a few planets aligning for us to even read over a tumblr post together.
Anyways take care everybody! *wave from H and M*
:)
- H
Yes! In so many ways!
- H
Beautiful…
- H
Oh…
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In response to another few asks we got:
First of all thank you for the compliment! We do love to incorporate as much intimacy and emotion as we can because - unlike perhaps some other blogs or just blogs run by individuals - our fantasies and play affect our relationship and things change and grow as a result of that. We promised to ourselves to try and share everything on our blog as long as we can find the words for it and although we keep a few things here and there we’ve shared a lot more than we thought we ever would a year ago.
That’s a big thing for us. It’s all real.
To answer your question as to how long we’ve been dating… M and I have been together since about the beginning of January 2011. Literally I mean New Year’s day. A lot of it was just me realizing that certain things I was doing were things I wanted to stop doing and I just wanted to be a better person. M was that for me. He was kind and intelligent and just plain lovely. And whenever we talked I always laughed and smiled and couldn’t stop just putting my arm around his arm or his neck and just nuzzling him or ruffling his hair. I wanted to be with him forever. That’s all I wanted.
So we’ve been dating since maybe April that year. Almost four years now. But I’ve known I’ve loved him since just about that New Years night way back then. And I guess I’ve realized I can’t live without him since around that time too.
But I’ve also known I couldn’t just be with him since maybe summer that year as well. It took a lot for me to not sleep with other men (and a lot to not admit that to M although I knew I could and wanted to). I’ve hardly been monogamous since high school (I was monogamous with my ex but that was an on-off thing so I’m not sure it could count as a relationship) and I’ve slept with a number of men over the course of my life. I won’t say I have any sort of excuse for doing so but what I’ve realized is that maybe it’s just best to accept it as a part of myself. I’ve always felt attracted to certain men and I’ve always felt a desire and need for certain kinds of sex and sexuality. I’ve tried different things over my life - distracting myself from those things or distancing or denying them. But I’ve found that part of me just hungers and devours itself if I do that. And in the end I always (always!) just give in and binge.
I just can’t feel satisfied without fulfilling that part of me and M and I learned that the hard way after that summer.
We plan and consider everything. And we talk and love. It isn’t always just sex or cuckolding (and it’s also why we haven’t been posting as much lately too) because there are times when we genuinely just spend time going for walks or playing video games or anything. Life can get pretty busy sometimes and it’s always important to make time. Because what’s life without actual (consequentless) fun?
Like I mentioned before… I just can’t live without the laughs and smiles and warm feelings M gives me.
- H & M
Some women want to be gripped and slapped. Some women want to be tossed and turned. Some women want to feel it deep and hard.
Some women just need a strong man’s hands. A strong man to make eye contact with when they come. A strong man to hold them and own them.
- H
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In response to an ask. Yes I believe it can be classified as addiction.
Submitting myself completely to a man… feeling him mark and mold me with his hands and body and gaze… letting him make me into his deepest, darkest, ultimate fantasy… watching in the mirror as I become both a broken slut and a built-up sexual goddess… for a man who wants to take an innocent-eyed girlfriend from her lovey-dovey boyfriend… just because he can and because he really feels the need to own her because he thinks she’s just so beautiful….
can be something very, very addictive.
- H
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Sometimes you realize the ideal of what he wants you to be is slowly aligning with the ideal of what you want to be too… and you’re growing closer and closer to it each week and day.
- H
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