Q
behindmyboyfriendsback asked:
I'm just curious, when you explore, do you have any limits? Are there things that you play with in fantasy, but would never, ever do in reality? Are things different for H than they are for M?
A
Yes we do, as I think any rational couple does. For the most part our limits overlap, although at times they’re ambiguous.
One of H’s limits is that she doesn’t want emotions involved. After high school she had a few “relationships” (although that’s a tentative word) where she was in a state of almost perpetually falling for a number of different men. However, they weren’t willing to or capable of giving her the care and affection, love and attention she needed (which is why our relationship works out; I give an excess of it, she needs an excess of it.) So in order to avoid that, she won’t play with the word “love” when it comes to other men. All of that blurs when it comes to her ex however–she’d never leave me for him, but the thought of her falling for him again is something that both scares and excites us.
One of my limits for H is that she never be tied up. It’s something she’s wanted to try in the past with the men she’s met, but for safety reasons is something I can’t condone. The same goes for me not knowing where she is when she plays–I always have to know, and we have to keep in constant communication (at least every hour or so) just to be sure. Her physical safety is my top priority. The ambiguous part for that is when it comes to me. She has a few fantasies about tying me up to a chair and gagging me while she and someone go at it, so we keep that open as a possibility.
Being completely candid, we aren’t sure where most of our limits lie. Both of our families and friends are a hard limit. We don’t want them to know. That’s partly why we started this tumblr, to help explore and push the envelope, to communicate honestly with strangers in a safe space, because that’s the only way we can find out how much is too much.- M
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